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It has officially been nearly one month since my little family unit returned from New York City, more specifically Manhattan, & I am already longing to go back there. We only visited Manhattan for a long weekend (approximately 3 & a half days), so it all felt very rushed & went by faster than a flash of lightning. Leading up to our little family vacation, I was a complete bundle of nerves. We had a majority of the important logistics planned & set in place, but all of the uncertainties that comes with being a new parent were creeping into my thoughts almost daily.

Aside from worrying about how my little bean would handle her first airport/airplane experience, I was very anxious about keeping her safe, not only from human dangers, but she has a tendency to pick up everything she sees on the ground…a trait she learned from her grandma always picking up crumbs & lint off the floor in our house & teaching her to do that too. Now, it has become a habit of my little bean, where whenever she sees something on the ground, she immediately wants to pick it up and put it in the trash. Every time we go out, we can’t walk more than 20 steps without telling our little one not to pick up things left on the street. I am somewhat of a germaphobe, so you could probably already tell I wanted to wipe my little bean’s hands every 10 seconds. However, I am happy to report that I was able to curb my germaphobia & not whip out my anti-bacterial hand wipes every time she touched something. I was too hot to pay attention to my germaphobia anyway.

The weather over the weekend was pretty awesome. Jian used to live in Manhattan (in the mid-to-late 90s), so he knows all too well about how hot the city summers could be there. In the weeks leading up to our trip, Jian was obsessively checking the weather forecast to see how insanely hot it was going to be when we got there. He always complained about how unbearably hot New York City summers could get, & he was hoping it wouldn’t be that intense while we were there. Luckily for us, the weather cooled down a somewhat (it was only in the low 80s Fahrenheit, compared to the forecasted 90 degrees), but the 60+% daily humidity really kicked our asses. It even rained on the day we were leaving. We got lucky & our flight barely made it out before the red alert warning was issued by the weather center for the impending thunderstorm.

Before heading to New York, we researched the hell out of all the food we wanted to eat while we were there (a.k.a. bookmarking tons of Instagram reels). Our eyes were definitely bigger than our stomachs, & we were naïvely trying to cram 10 days worth of meals into, technically, 3 days of being in New York. Even still, we were able to tick a couple of our must-eat spots off of our list. We started our food journey with a New York City staple: the bacon egg & cheese breakfast sandwich at Gregory’s Coffee (not planned). We ate the most delicious desserts at the very first American location of our favorite Japanese cakery, HARBS. We had our first Korean gastropub experience at OSAMIL & celebrated Jian’s milestone birthday. We couldn’t go to New York without eating its iconic Italian food. That’s when we met up with Jian’s second cousin for dinner at L’Amico, & yes, we had iconic New York style pizza there. Meeting with very important family friends who helped Jian & his family get settled in New York City after immigrating was held over a special brunch at Mark’s Off Madison. Brunch in New York would not really be brunch if we didn’t have the smoked salmon, scrambled eggs & bagels platter (which we did). We pretty much ate all of the signature New York City foods minus cheesecake & the chopped cheese sandwich.

While we were in New York we ended up not visiting much of any landmarks or famous places. The only major landmarks, for lack of a better description, we actually spent time visiting was The Metropolitan Museum of Art & Strand Book Store. Sure, we walked through various popular neighborhoods & districts like, the Flatiron district, Union Square park, Bryant Park, East Village, etcetera, but we didn’t go to the actual “touristy” places like Central Park, Times Square, The Empire State Building (even though our hotel was 4 blocks away), or all the other famous places seen or depicted in movies & TV shows. One place I wish we had visited was the 9/11 Memorial & Museum. We were staying in Koreatown, & the memorial was on the opposite side of town in the financial district. So with our little one in mind, we decided not to make the trek across town & spend most of our time exploring the areas closer to our hotel.

Speaking of hotels, we stayed at the Le Meridien Hotel on 5th Avenue. (Just saying the name 5th Avenue reminds me of Audrey Hepburn, Breakfast at Tiffany’s, & the book Fifth Avenue, 5 A.M. by Sam Wasson.) True to typical New York City fashion, the hotel was very compact. We have stayed at the Le Meridien hotel chain quite a few times. In fact, we’ve stayed at the Le Meridien Hotel Pasadena in the past, & as we expected, the Fifth Avenue version of Le Meridien was very New York city apartment-esque, compact yet very efficiently designed.

For our stay, we had originally booked a corner suite with a city view for our trio, however since we were arriving before the hotel’s check-in hours, the original room we had booked wasn’t yet available. Our little one had vomited on the plane from the bumpy landing at JFK airport (who knew she gets motion sickness like her mom?). She got a little bit of it on her clothes, which meant we were kind of desperate to get any available room so we could quickly drop off our luggage & change her clothes. Ultimately we ended up staying in a Gran King room with a terrace (a.k.a. outdoor patio), which was more than adequate for us. Here are some room photos for your reference. Please excuse the messiness. I didn’t get a chance to take any first impression pictures, & had to hastily take photos after we had already settled in.

Planning our little bean’s first ever airplane ride to New York City was a piece of cake; Jian & I are pretty seasoned travelers. However, traveling with Jian’s parents was chaotic. The two of them were like kids in a candy store with an unlimited spending limit. They wanted to do so many things & see various friends scattered throughout the boroughs, yet Jian didn’t want them to explore the city by themselves in case they were to get lost. It was difficult at times to coordinate our daily plans as everyone had their own individual agendas. Pile on the heat & humidity on top of all that, you know people are bound to get easily tired & cranky sometimes. However, we thoroughly enjoyed our trip & are making plans to go back to New York again next year in the spring. On the next trip, we are absolutely not traveling with any grandparents, just our own little trio.

Next up, we are going on our ginormous adventure back to Japan, but with our little bean this time. This one’s also going to be a chaotic trip, but at least it will be organized chaos because it’ll just be the three of us, which is a whole helluva lot easier to manage. I really, really hope I can write another detailed blog post again like I did back in 2016 when I went on a group tour with my relatives. I don’t think my little bean will let me have much computer time after this trip, but we’ll see. Until the next one, cheers!

What brings you peace?

Lots of things bring peace into my life, big things, small things, random & silly things. I do not meditate, or bullet journal, or do specific arts & crafts like knitting or chrocheting. I guess those types of things provide more of a calmness than peace, but I also suppose those two things can go hand-in-hand most of the time.

Here is a list of things that bring me peace:

  • Not having any major physical illness or impediments
  • Making lasting memories with my child
  • Having easily accessible child support within my family
  • Having the best partner to raise a child with
  • Having a much less strained relationship with my older sister
  • Building even deeper relationships with my older brothers & core friend group
  • Still having members of the older generations in my family (Most, if not all of the elders in my family: grandparents, parents, aunts & uncles are all gone.)
  • Being in a comfortable financial status (*knocking on wood* 🤜🏻 🪵 🚪)
  • Having the means & ability to travel at least once a year
  • Eating my favorite ice cream flavor
  • Having one more cup of coffee

These are the core things that bring me peace. Everything else just seems like boasting. I will leave it at that. Cheers all.

So, if you’re a mommy blogger, or baby expert, or child behavior expert, or any other developmental specialist, please do not come for me. My little bean was born 2+ years ago, & I have barely “baby-proofed” my house. Of course (I mean, obviously…) the basic guidelines are in place. For example, prescription medications are on the highest shelf of a hard-to-reach cabinet, sharp objects are mostly out of reach of fast toddler hands, etcetera. However, I haven’t quite done ALL of the baby-proofing that parenting books & other guides tell you to do.

My house looks pretty much exactly the same as it did pre-child; still got tons of my mom’s meaningless crap random knickknacks strewn all over the place. We still have a lot of fragile decor displayed everywhere. I haven’t put any stick-on safety bumpers on any hard furniture corners. I also haven’t put up any baby gates (luckily, I live in a single level home with no indoor stairs) or safety latches on any cabinets or drawers. The most “baby-proofing” I’ve done so far is put a top-of-the-line (most popular on the market) baby monitor over my child’s crib-now-a-toddler-bed & plastic safety covers on the wall outlets/sockets.

I know that I still have time to “child-proof” my house, but whenever I look for things to make my house safer for my kid, I either end up getting the wrong product (wrong size, wrong fit), or Jian has some long-winded debate about its non-practicality & waste of money, & then there’s my mom chirping in the background that she doesn’t want our house to get overrun by too many children’s things. She also likes to argue that she won’t know how to use any of that stuff (like the safety latches on cabinets) & it’s all too complicated, so we might as well not incumber her life with all these newfangled (stupid, as she calls it) gadgets, therefore why bother? Besides, in her words, we never had these kinds of baby-proofing things when we were growing up in the 80s & 90s & we still turned out okay. I guess there will always be an excuse to justify not baby-proofing the house, which is mostly us parents being lazy & also giving in to grandma’s reasons for keeping things the way they are.

So far, we’ve had success in our child not harming herself in any way. We are extremely lucky to be in a position where one adult or another is able to keep an eye on her at all times. Jian works from home 4 out of 5 days per week, & my mom lives with us, so there is always a pair of adult eyes on our little bean. Right now our little bean is in her explorative phase, & like every other child she wants to go through all the drawers & cabinets. We have been lucky, so far, that when we tell her to put something down or to not touch something, she will do as we say, but we also follow up with a brief explanation as to why we gave her such a command. We try to explain…I guess you could call it child-splaining…to our little bean what things are & why they are not meant for her to touch or play with. We use simple terms, & talk to her in a calm, clear voice.

For me especially, I try not to use the phrase “because I said so” or other blanket phrases because that doesn’t really let her know that she’s not supposed to touch or play with the thing(s) you don’t want her to grab. I take the time to show her the item (just out of her reach, of course) & explain to my little bean what it is & why it’s not meant to be touched by little hands or played with…things like scissors, chopsticks, tools, etcetera. The little bean still gets to look at the item she’s so laser focused on, but then she also learns what it’s meant for & learns that it’s not a toy. So far this method has worked for our little family unit. Our little bean walks by the laundry closet full of spray bottles & detergent pods, but she has never once opened the sliding closet door & grabbed anything she wasn’t supposed to. I’ve shown her the closet a few times & explained that we keep soaps in there to wash clothes, & she hasn’t ever given it a second thought to grab anything.

One major thing that I was very concerned about when our little bean became more mobile was our fireplace. Everyone in our little household has been teaching our little bean about what is hot/cold & to not touch hot things (like coffee cups & the stove), but our little bean likes to play near the fireplace, especially on cold days. We live in an area where we regularly have to turn on our gas-powered fireplace on full blast during the winter season, & I’m the forever-worrier. So, I bought a good fireplace screen. It keeps a nice little barrier between our bean & the fire & teaches her about boundaries. So far it has worked, & has kept our little bean from getting too close to the heat. This was one of the best baby-proofing investments I’ve made.

Of course, all of this teaching our little bean about what are grown-up things & what are kids toys could easily fly right out the window, & she could end up trashing the entire house one day, but for now, I will continue to educate my child on what things she can & cannot touch. You know, I still have recurring thoughts about “baby-proofing” my house. I go back-&-forth in my own head about what items I can still buy to keep my child safe at home. I think about these things, & I become very indecisive about which things are still worth getting, or I think about Jian complaining about me spending too much money again…even though I am buying things for our child & not frivolous things for myself. For now, I suppose we are okay with not really baby-proofing our house. We live in a single-level Eichler home built in the 1960s. The house is very sturdy & already child-friendly. We should be fine…I guess. We’ll see. Until the next post, cheers.

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